Thirty, Flirty, & Thriving
I'm officially 30! I couldn't be happier right now. I brought in my birthday in the most Chandler way possible: lots of food, plenty of drank, surrounded by the love of my family and friends. I can truly say that this has been the best birthday month I've ever had, and it's just getting started.
I approached 30 with an open mind, full of wonder, excitement, and a sense of peace. If you're about to be 30 or even if you have a couple years to go, there may be an inkling in your mind about an imaginary clock ticking for you to accomplish certain things (especially as a woman). When I was turning 25, I had this idea of who I was going to be, who I'd be married to, having a kid, and other wishes as I entered my 30s. Literally nothing has gone as planned, and I'm not mad at it! In the past couple months prior to this milestone, I learned a lot about myself & am ascribing this statement to my 30s: YOU DON'T HAVE TO CONTROL EVERYTHING. Lies is exponentially better when I let go, go with the flow, and allow God's plan to unfold beautifully.
I had some serious wins in my 20s: finished undergrad, completed a master's degree program, went natural and fell in love with my fro, moved to 4 different cities, and started to really understand what it means to practice self-care and self-love. There are things and people that I've lost as well, and I'm still learning and growing from those experiences. Anything that was lost either wasn't good for me, wasn't in my life at the right time, or it served its purpose before its departure. I'm extremely grateful for the opportunity to reflect back on the last decade and to realize and understand more of my purpose while I'm here. In my 30s, I'm welcoming the chance to further my journey as an artist, to build and support a loving community around me, to (hopefully) start a family, and to exercise my freedom every chance I get.
I'm really lucky to have close friends that have become like family that I can usher in this era with. I just spent a weekend in Seattle, exploring, eating delicious food, and keeping the good vibes flowing with my homie for life, Gina. (I totally recommend traveling to the northwest, especially Seattle, if you're looking for a laid back vibe with lots of trees. 😎)
A friend asked me at my birthday dinner, "Year 30! What's next?!" I definitely have some ideas! But I really want to focus on allowing God to show me more of what I'm here to do, were I'm needed most, and how I can be better in my 3rd decade. One major shift happening is my location. I'm moving again this Fall, this time to New Orleans. I can't wait to soak up all the culture, to eat like a KING on the regular, and to expand my artistic abilities through drawing, painting, and design. Also I'm making the switch to a more plant-based diet. This will be a hard one because let's be honest, is there anything better than a chicken wing?! But I have to keep it real about taking care of my body. (I'm not willing to give up seafood just yet, so your girl is starting out pescetarian for now.)
Other than those 2 changes, my 30s are an open book. I'm ready to walk the path that God has already laid for me. I'm ready to leave the mistakes of my 20s behind. I'm ready to see more cities I've never been to, to do more things that scare me, and to smile through it all. There's nothing better than being exactly where you want and need to be at the beginning of a life-changing era. For that, I'm so blessed and thankful. If there's anything I can say to someone in the 27-29 range about turning 30, it's this: LET GO! Let of of your predetermined timelines, let go of the past, let go of ALL negativity, and let go of fear. Ready yourselves by having hardcore faith, and get in the position to receive a new dose of joy, peace, perseverance, and true HAPPINESS!
30 is LIT!